What an Engineer Looks Like (on the inside)

IMG_0191The ILookLikeAnEngineer buzz this week has been amazing. If you’ve missed it, here’s the short version: An engineer (young; female; pretty) is featured in a job recruiting campaign in San Francisco. The local community reacts by saying she “doesn’t look like an engineer”. In response, engineers everywhere, of all gender, race, age and background, respond with selfies tagged #ilooklikeananengineer.

What I’ve noticed most of all, though, is not the pictures. It’s what the engineers choose to include on the signs they’re holding. As it turns out, not only do engineers all look different – we have different interests and personalities, too.

For me, the assumptions about who I am and what I should enjoy are potentially more damaging than the assumptions about what I should wear and how I should look. So in that spirit, here’s what I “look like”, as an engineer:

  •  I’m a runner,
  • a backpacker,
  • a volunteer,
  • a Christian,
  • and a writer.
  • I crochet. I like to crochet while waiting for economic models to converge.
  • I love shoes, but I don’t like wearing anything that makes me prance at work.
  • I don’t love makeup. My face melts if I have to go out in the plant.
  • I’m not really good at math, but I can do it.
  • I AM really good at patterns.
  • I get bored doing one sort of thing for too long.
  • I’m more productive in late afternoon / evening.
  • I’m an introvert.
  • I’m also the social planner in my group.
  • I love pedicures.
  • I hate manicures.
  • I do not wear dockers and polos to work.
  • I am still figuring out what I do wear to work.
  • I’m also an MBA. I’m good at economics.
  • I love being outside.
  • I’m an organizer and a coordinator.
  • I’m a collaborator and a teammate.
  • I’m creative.
  • I love projects: serious work ones and silly home ones.
  • My ideal place: a library with a coffee shop inside.
  • I love books. Physical books. Especially when they’re smelly.

Do yimage_medium2ou notice that the usual high school guidance counselor criteria, “loves science and math (and – subtext – star trek)” are not on my list? Yet I can’t imagine any career that would suit my personality better than engineering.

Readers: Any surprises in the above list? For my STEM readers — how do YOU look like an engineer?
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Countdown to 2014’s Top Ten Books: Nonfiction

  As I work on my Top Ten list for 2014, I have some categories of books that may not make the top ten, but deserve special recognition anyway. Today’s category is nonfiction – a big category, I know, but here’s what I loved. (I have already reviewed most of these, so the links are to my blog posts instead of Goodreads).

 

5. Crafting: Rustic Modern Crochet by Yumiko Alexanderimagegatewoodwork

4. Faith: Still: Notes on a mid-faith crisis by Lauren Winner

3. Memoir: Grandma Gatewood’s Walk by Ben Montgomery

2. Business: What Works for Women at Work by Joan C Williams

1. Memoir: My Salinger Year by Joanna Rakoff

 

Readers: What were your favorite nonfiction reads in 2014? 

What I Loved in Blogs This Week

imageI want to write about things I love in my everyday life. But I want to read about them, too, and connect with other bloggers who are writing about the same topics. Although my blog reading, like my posts, is currently heavily slanted towards books, I did enjoy some really good posts in several of my favorite categories this week.

Books

Adventures in Audio: Bookshelf Fantasies expressed her conversion to audiobook listener better than I ever did. Plus, there’s a great discussion going on in the comments section.

Career & Women in STEM

Barbie, Remixed: I (Really) Can be a Computer Engineer: A real life woman computer engineer rewrites a very demeaning Barbie book more to her liking. Oh, and Ken is a moron. (But we knew that already).

Yoga

Review of Yogis Anonymous: Broke-Ass Yogi tries out an online yoga class subscription service, and lets us know how she liked it. (Spoiler: it sounds like she had the same problem I do with yoga videos – wussing out in the middle of a long sequence I don’t like.)

Faith

The False Gospel of Gender Binaries: Rachel Held Evans asks, “If Jesus started with the outliers, why wouldn’t we?”

 

Readers: What was your favorite blog post (not your own) from this week?

Maternal Employment May Negatively Affect Child Well-Being… Wait, What?

4405834014_aa2d188916_zA recent Wall Street Journal headline asked the question “No Time for Family Dinner? Try Breakfast”. It’s suggesting a new spin on the old truism that healthy families – and especially healthy children and adolescents – sit down to dinner together every night.

But wait, the WSJ says. Maybe it’s not really about the meal. Maybe it’s about the socioeconomic setting behind the meal.

Families with higher incomes, two parents, one parent who doesn’t work and strong family bonds have family dinner more often than families without those characteristics

Like the nerd I am, I clicked the supporting citation. It led to a 2012 paper by Cornell researchers, “Assessing Causality and Persistence in Associations Between Family Dinners and Adolescent Well-being“, published on the NIH website.

We controlled for variables… that may affect both the management of a regular family dinner and child well-being, including family structure, number of children in the household, family income, parental education, and maternal employment.

The link between this research and the WSJ quote above is pretty clear, except for one glaring difference. The WSJ (who knows their audience) mentions “one parent who doesn’t work” as a potential variable. The original research, however, controls for maternal employment. Not “dual parental employment”. Not even  maternal and paternal employment separately. It’s all about whether the mother has a job or not.

It’s reasonable to consider how parents’ work arrangements could affect the data. But by choosing only maternal employment as a variable, the researchers are assuming that it is only the woman’s decision to work (not the man’s) that may influence family meals and well-being.

Even worse, if you open the tables attached to the article, they go beyond just maternal employment. They actually correlate “mother starts work” and “mother quits work” with increases and decreases in depressive behaviors. Also, the research paper cites numerous other research on maternal employment and child health. Apparently there is an entire field of study dedicated to whether women’s employment – not the parents’ combined work arrangement – is bad for their children.

Are we really still asking that question?

 

Image courtesy GranniesKitchen via Flickr. License

Membership and Belonging: Young Professionals at Church

I recently read (via Facebook) a well-meaning article questioning why some young people are attending church but not becoming members.

I don’t have the link anymore, but the concept – or maybe the complaint – has really stuck with me. My husband and I are regularly attending a church without being officially on the membership roll, and after some careful consideration, I’m still okay with that. I think it’s worth discussing, though, because it’s part of a disconnect that exists between churches and a particular part of the population.

I’m talking specifically about young professionals, married or unmarried. What does this segment look like?

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  • We relocate frequently for our jobs – every 1-3 years. Or, we may change employers frequently. Either way, we’re trying to establish ourselves in life and in business, and we’re not especially tied to any one area.
  • We travel for business regularly, and we may also accept temporary assignments (say, 3-6 months’ duration). It’s a Lean In kinda thing: we’re young and relatively unattached; now’s the time to get those types of experiences.
  • Our friends and family are located all over the place: in our hometown, in our college town, in the last place we worked. We are not living in any of those places, and there’s a lot of family expectation and social pressure to maintain those relationships and show up at key events like weddings and birthdays. As a result, one, two or even three weekends out of the month, we’re on the road.
  • We’re dating or married to other young professionals who are also dealing with the above. Chances are, they’re  not the same denomination as we are.

As a result:

  • We’re not able to be in your church every weekend, so when we are, please don’t come up to us with big sad eyes and say how glad you are that we’ve decided to ‘come back’. Remember, we may have been to church somewhere else. You’re not the only church in the world.
  • We can’t come to your Tuesday afternoon Women’s tea or your 7 AM Men’s breakfast. This doesn’t mean that we don’t want to participate or that we are “Sunday Only” Christians. Nor does it mean that we aren’t adults yet (even though not being able to participate in adult activities can make us feel that way).
  • It’s exhausting to search for, join, and commit to a church every time we relocate. Ideally, we stick within our denomination or to more open churches. (I’ve found United Methodists wonderful at being open – but that’s just me.) It’s much worse if we also have to ‘convert’ or go through classes to join. The effort does not seem worthwhile when we’re just going to pull up our stakes in a few months and go somewhere else.
  • We really just want to be able to participate in authentic worship in a welcoming and inclusive environment. No gimmicks and no sign up sheets. We’ll give, we’ll come to potlucks and church events when we can, and we’ll sing super loud if that’s what you want. Just don’t ask for more than we can do at this moment in our lives.

With all that: I’m thankful that I have found a welcoming church where I haven’t been pressured in any way, and where my husband and I can both fully participate together. I would love to feel more like a member by being included in the life of the church – yes, I’m talking about those teas and service events – but they seem to be geared towards housewives and retirees. So I’m letting that go, for now.

And please, when you see me at church after a two-week absence: just say hello. No intervention required.

 

 photo credit: Matthew Wilkinson, “Montreal Steps”, via Flickr. license

When Leaning In ends in Dropping Out

14009391698_3ef93cf1ac_mThis summer, I tried something new: I joined a training group through my local running store.

I’m not new to running: I’ve been doing it off-and-on since I was seventeen, and consistently for the past six years.  I run for enjoyment, and I run for my mind: for strength and energy, and as an anti-depressant.

I consistently run 5K in 28 minutes. This spring, I did my first 10K and ran at almost the same pace. So it got me thinking: maybe I’m able to run faster, and my current pace is  just a habit.

When my local store offered a 6-week summer program, I signed up. It’ll be fun! I told myself. It’ll be like summer camp! Meet new people, try new things. Plus, I told myself that if I could run a faster 5K, I could train faster, get more out of my running, and perhaps even get closer to my goal of running a half marathon. For an engineer like me, efficiency is the ultimate temptation. Continue reading

Thursday Quotables: Misplaced Tolerance

The Buddhist texts mention what is called ‘misplaced tolerance,’ or ‘misplaced forbearance.’ …  the sense of endurance that some individuals have when they are subject to a very destructive, negative activity… The appropriate response really is to actively resist it, to try to change this environment rather than accept it. One should take some action.

— The Dalai Lama

from The Art of Happiness at Work by Howard C. Cutler
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